A time comes in your life when you finally get it. when, in the midst of all your fears and confusion, you stop dead in your tracks, and somewhere the voice inside you cries out enough! enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling. then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes. this is your awakening .
You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety, and security to magically appear over the next horizon. and you realize that, in the real world, there aren't always fairy tale endings and any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you. in the process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you're not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate, or approve of who or what you are and that's okay. they're entitled to their views and opinions. you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself. and, in the process, a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you or didn't do for you and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected and yourself.you learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say,and that not everyone will always be there for you and that everything isn't always about you. so, you learn to stand on your own and take care of yourself and, in the process, a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are, overlooking their shortcomings and human frailties. in the process, a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness. you learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've out grown or should never have bought into in the first place. you learn that there's power and glory in creating and contributing, and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer " looking for your next fix .
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the out dated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life. you learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world, and that you can't teach a pig to sing. you learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
When you learn about love, you learn to see relationships as they really are and not as you would like them to be. you learn that alone does not mean lonely. you stop trying to control people ,situations,and outcomes you learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no.you also stop working so hard at smoothing things over while ignoring your own needs.
You learn that your body really is your temple. you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. you begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise. you learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty. so you take more time to rest. and, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels your soul. so you take more time to laugh and to play. you learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy .
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. more importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline, and perseverance. you also learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it's okay to ask for help.
You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. you learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms. You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve and that, sometimes, bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. you learn not to always take it personally.you learn that no body's punishing you and that everything isn't always some body's fault. it's just life happening. you learn to admit when you're wrong and when to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe surrounding you.you learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people on the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a warm/soft bed, a long hot shower. then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself, and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart's desire.
You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility. you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. and, finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.