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Coffee Cups [14 Jul 2006|07:34pm]

may_flower66
[ mood | good ]

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.Offering his guests coffee, the Professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups porcelain,plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite telling them to help themselves to the coffee.


When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said:"If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones.While it is but normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups and were eying each others cups.



Now consider this: Life is the coffee, and the jobs, money, clothes, houses, cars, motorcycles and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and do not change the quality of Life. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided." So, don't let the cups drive you , enjoy the coffee instead.

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plus sized business attire. [09 Jun 2006|02:07pm]

stilllove
I am a plus sized woman who is particularly partial to pant suits but I'm having trouble finding them. Does anyone know of any plus sized stores that sell professional pant suits. I'm looking for really stylish stuff also if possible. I hate to say money isn't an option, but if I have to kick out for nice suits, I will.

update: I found a couple of nice suits at JC Penney, but that's about it.
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You Learn [09 Jun 2006|08:53am]

may_flower66
[ mood | good ]

A time comes in your life when you finally get it. when, in the midst of all your fears and confusion, you stop dead in your tracks, and somewhere the voice inside you cries out enough! enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling. then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes. this is your awakening .

You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety, and security to magically appear over the next horizon. and you realize that, in the real world, there aren't always fairy tale endings and any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you. in the process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you're not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate, or approve of who or what you are and that's okay. they're entitled to their views and opinions. you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself. and, in the process, a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you or didn't do for you and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected and yourself.you learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say,and that not everyone will always be there for you and that everything isn't always about you. so, you learn to stand on your own and take care of yourself and, in the process, a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are, overlooking their shortcomings and human frailties. in the process, a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness. you learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've out grown or should never have bought into in the first place. you learn that there's power and glory in creating and contributing, and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer " looking for your next fix .

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the out dated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life. you learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world, and that you can't teach a pig to sing. you learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

When you learn about love, you learn to see relationships as they really are and not as you would like them to be. you learn that alone does not mean lonely. you stop trying to control people ,situations,and outcomes you learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no.you also stop working so hard at smoothing things over while ignoring your own needs.


You learn that your body really is your temple. you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. you begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise. you learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty. so you take more time to rest. and, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels your soul. so you take more time to laugh and to play. you learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy .

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen. more importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline, and perseverance. you also learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it's okay to ask for help.

You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. you learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms. You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve and that, sometimes, bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. you learn not to always take it personally.you learn that no body's punishing you and that everything isn't always some body's fault. it's just life happening. you learn to admit when you're wrong and when to build bridges instead of walls.

You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe surrounding you.you learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people on the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a warm/soft bed, a long hot shower. then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself, and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart's desire.


You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility. you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind. and, finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.

—Author, Unknown

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Opinions Please: Speaking to People You Don't Like? [08 Jun 2006|09:25am]

bellarisa
[ mood | thoughtful ]

Hey Ladies,

I had a situation come up over the weekend that I'd like to hear your
thoughts.

I belong to a certain community that has an active online forum
and a huge party every year. There is a person on the forum with whom I do not
get along, I've tried for 8 years now and it doesn't work; he posts very
insultingly on topics that are deeply important to me (and about which he knows
nothing and has zero experience btw), makes very nasty insinuations about my
lifestyle, makes sure to drop an insult in threads that have nothing to do with
the topics we've discussed, etc. He's like this with lots of people, to the
point that the moderators banned him for a week very recently, and then had to
ban all 7 or 8 of his fake names. Yes, his fake names that he uses to support
himself in arguments. This guy even used a fake name to pose as a woman who has
a huge crush on him and gushed about how handsome and cool he is, it was pitiful
when he was busted. (He wasn't busted publically, btw, just the mods and a few
of us knew.) I finally put him on my 'ignore' list and now i just don't receive
anything he writes, it's better for my blood pressure.

This past Sunday
he came to the annual party, and to be honest he's always nice and normal in
real life. But when he came up to me and said hello I just couldn't speak to
him. I wanted to, but all the unwarranted nasty things he's said to myself and
friends of mine over the last year came right to my mind. So I just nodded and
walked away, and made sure I was away from him for the rest of the event. I was
taught the whole " if you can't say something nice..." so I kept my distance. I
thought that was the mature thing to do. We had a huge place for the party, so
he and I had a ton of fun away from each other with no problem.

But now
I'm hearing that he's telling everyone that I was horribly immature and mean to
him (!) and that "an adult would have left her resentment at the door and just
had fun with everyone". This blew me away. I didn't have it in me to be a
hypocrite and smile in his face all afternoon, and I stayed away so we could
both have a good time.

Was that wrong? He feels that the online friction
shouldn't affect me in real time. I still wanted to push his face in. Thoughts
please.

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Info post [07 Apr 2006|01:36pm]

denim_queen
Lately I've been having problems getting info regarding the Duke Rape case. Basically I just want to know what'sgoing on and if anyone in the community is going to do anything about that. I've been trying to get in contact with the NAACP for a couple of days know and haveing no luck.

So what's a girl to do?

She calls her mother.

And after explaining to mom about my situation, she immediatly started giving me contact info for various chapters of the SCLC or as she likes to call them, "The Real Deal."

So if anybody's interestedthe information is hereCollapse )

Now I don't know how accurate these numbers are since I haven't call any of them yet, but I figured I'll put the information aout there. I figure, I can't be the only one out there who wants info but don't knwo where to look.
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Destroy & Rebuild [23 Mar 2006|01:33pm]

ebonygoddess9
[ mood | reflective ]

Hey, Ladies...long time since I've posted...but then again, it's been a long time since anybody posted regularly, right?! :o)

Anyways, had a question I wanted to pose for discussion...if you could pick anything any your life, that if given the chance you'd completely destroy and start over again in its development, what would it be?

The second part of that question...if it is indeed something that can be destroyed and rebuilt, why aren't you doing it?

With me the biggest thing is my apartment. I haven't established any real order in there in...well, let's just say I'd never invite any of y'all there if I wanted you to think I was sane. LOL If I could, I would completely take everything out of my apartment, down to the walls and floor, and start all over with how I'd establish it--furniture, cleaning schedules (which is related to another thing I'd like to destroy and rebuild, my weekly schedule), clothes--EVERYTHING. I actually plan to do some form of that at the end of my lease this year, when I move in with my sister. I'm only going to take what I want to actually put in the new place, set it up there exactly how I intend to have it, and then throw out everything left in the apartment--photoalbums, picture frames, clothes--WHATEVER DOES NOT ALREADY HAVE A HOME IN THE NEW PLACE IS BEING TOSSED.

Okay, so that's me...how about you?

In a cleansing frenzy,
EbG9 :o)

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I am Thankful : [02 Mar 2006|11:34am]

may_flower66
[ mood | cheerful ]

FOR THE WIFE
WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT,
BECAUSE SHE IS HOME WITH ME,
AND NOT OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

FOR THE HUSBAND
WHO IS ON THE SOFA
BEING A COUCH POTATO,
BECAUSE HE IS HOME WITH ME
AND NOT OUT AT THE BARS.

FOR THE TEENAGER
WHO IS COMPLAINING ABOUT DOING DISHES
BECAUSE IT MEANS SHE IS AT HOME,
NOT ON THE STREETS.

FOR THE TAXES I PAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM EMPLOYED.

FOR THE MESS TO CLEAN AFTER A PARTY
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE
BEEN SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS.

FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT.

FOR MY SHADOW THAT WATCHES ME WORK
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM OUT IN THE SUNSHINE

FOR A LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING,
WINDOWS THAT NEED CLEANING,
AND GUTTERS THAT NEED FIXING
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE A HOME.

FOR ALL THE COMPLAINING
I HEAR ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT
BECAUSE IT MEANS
WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH..

FOR THE PARKING SPOT
I FIND AT THE FAR END OF THE PARKING LOT
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM CAPABLE OF WALKING
AND I HAVE BEEN BLESSED ! WITH TRANSPORTATION.

FOR MY HUGE HEATING BILL
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM WARM.

FOR T HE LADY BEHIND ME IN CHURCH
WHO SINGS OFF KEY BECAUSE IT MEANS
I CAN HEAR.

FOR THE PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR.

FOR WEARINESS AND ACHING MUSCLES
AT THE END OF THE DAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN
CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD.

FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OFF
IN THE EARLY MORNING HOURS
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM ALIVE.

AND FINALLY, FOR TOO MUCH E-MAIL
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE
FRIENDS WHO ARE THINKING OF ME.

Live well, Laugh often, & Love with all of your heart!

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Madea Grosses $30M in Opening Weekend [27 Feb 2006|02:57pm]

bklynhamptonian
Congrats to Tyler Perry! I love seeing Black people making strides and doing a damn thing. . . but (and ya'll knew this was coming) at what expense? Now don't get me wrong I supported one of his plays and while I did not see it in the movies I did rent Diary of a Mad Black Woman but it kills me the way films in certain genre's are way more popular and seems to resonate with my people more than others. Case in point, somehow, some way Big Mommas House 2 was the number 1 film in the country it's opening weekend yet Something New has barely made $12M after being out for weeks. Why is that? Yeah, yeah I know that films such as The Best Man and Brown Sugar performed well but for every one of those films you have a "Cook Out" and "Soul Plane" that does outstanding in the theaters. Is it because deep down inside those are the films we like, the type of films that the studios need to keep producing? Am I in the minority, one of the few people who prefer to see quality, touching, real-life (or similar), uplifting films versus modern day buffoonery? Not that Madea is buffoonery. While I believe Madea does carry on certain sterotypes its far superior than Soul Plane. I don't know what do you think?
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Five lessons to make you think about the way we treat people. [10 Feb 2006|06:30pm]

may_flower66
[ mood | happy ]

1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.

During my second month of college, our professor
gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student
and had breezed through the questions until I read
the last one:

"What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"
Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the
cleaning woman several times. She was tall,
dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name?

I handed in my paper, leaving the last question
blank. Just before class ended, one student asked ! if
the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

"Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers,
you will meet many people. All are significant. They
deserve your attention and care, even if all you do
is smile and say "hello."

I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her
name was Dorothy.

2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American
woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway
trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had
broken down and she desperately needed a ride.
Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.
A young white man stopped to help her, generally
unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man
took her to safety, helped her get assistance, and
put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his
address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a
knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a
giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A
special note was attached..

It read:"Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway
the other night. The rain drenched not only my
clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along.
Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying
husband's bedside just before he passed away... God
bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving
others."

Sincerely,
Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3 - Third Important Lesson - Always remember those
who serve.


In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less,
a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and
sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in
front of him.

"How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked.

"Fifty cents," replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and
studied the coins in it.

"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired.

By now more people were waiting for a table and the
waitress was growing impatient.

"Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins.

"I'll have the plain ice cream," he said.

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on
the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice
cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress
came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the
table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish,
were two nickels and five pennies..

You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had
to have enough left to leave her a tip.

4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a
roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if
anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the
king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by
and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the
King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did
anything about getting the stone out of the way.



Then a peasant came along carrying a load of
vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the
peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the
stone to the side of the road. After much pushing
and straining, he finally succeeded. After the
peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed
a purse lying in the road where the boulder had
been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note
from the King indicating that the gold was for the
person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The
peasant learned what many of us never understand!

Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve
our condition.

5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts...

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a
hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who
was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only
chance of recovery appeared to be a blood
transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had
miraculously survived the same disease and had
developed the antibodies needed to combat the
illness. The doctor explained the situation to her
little brother, and asked the little boy if he would
be willing to give his blood to his sister.

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking! ng a
deep breath and saying, "Yes I'll do it if it will
save her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in
bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did,
seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his
face grew pale and his smile faded.

He looked up at the doctor and asked with a
trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away".

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the
doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his
sister all of his blood in order to save her.


Now you have 2 choices.

1. Delete this, or
2. Forward it to people you care about.
I hope that you will choose No. 2 and remember.

Most importantly.................. "Work like you
don't need the money, love like you've never been
hurt, and dance like you do when nobody's watching."

NOW more than ever - Peace...Pass It On.....

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*headdesk* [09 Feb 2006|11:48am]

karnythia
p_dilla and I went to OHOP for breakfast this morning. Lots of yummy food and that overfull sleepy feeling resulted. When we got on the bus to go home I was pretty much expecting to struggle to stay awake. That was indeed how it worked until we were about halfway home. Then three teenage girls got on the bus, one of them pushing a stroller. They sat right next to us and started talking away. Initially I was trying to tune them out because they were getting on my nerves with lots of talk about who was dating who, and who had been cheating on who and the fights that have resulted. One of them went on a whole riff about their adult ed night classes and how they were "jumping" (but no mention of actually learning anything) and there's a lot of talk about the guys that they're dating. The guys all sound like they've been sleeping with the same circle of girls over and over and have managed to mistreat every single girl. They talk about these guys stealing, cheating, hitting various partners, selling drugs. In short they have no respect for women. It's like teenage misogyny on parade. Then they start talking about needing to go to the courthouse, and two of them start talking their paternity situations.

The one pushing the stroller is also pregnant (though not by the same guy that made the kid in the stroller) and the other girl had a child with a guy who is by all accounts a complete psycho. Her son died from some illness (she didn't say what, just that the doctor screwed up) and she was on her way to the courthouse to get parental termination papers so that when they sued for malpractice the crazy man couldn't benefit. My mind was already boggled by the first half of the conversation, but when she started talking about the fact that the father hadn't acknowledged the child and wasn't on the birth certificate, my inner lawyer to be made me interject and point out that her plan of not telling him about the lawsuit in order to get him to sign the termination papers was a bad idea. We talked for a few minutes and while I have no idea if she'll take my advice the thing that saddened me most about the conversation was the fact that none of these girls were more than maybe 16. Only the one girl seemed to have avoided becoming a mother, and the one with the stroller was on kiddo #2 with the older child still being denied by his father.

The two with kids were too young and undereducated to understand the concepts I explained, much less the vagaries of child custody and support. For that matter listening to the descriptions of these guys, they had too little self esteem to even recognize that someone with 3 babies by 3 different girls that took responsibility for none of the children wasn't at all a good catch. The fact that all the unprotected sex made them prime targets for a host of STD's? Never even entered their minds. Comprehensive sex ed is a start, but they need so much more than just that. p_dilla and I had already planned on mentoring after we went back to the Chi, but I feel like there needs to be something more I can do. I just have no idea what that is, or how this trend is so prevalent. Feminism is supposed to have alleviated so many problems facing women, but I look at these girls and I see that all that's happened is that the things that used to go on behind closed doors are now public.
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Little girls and self-esteem [06 Feb 2006|10:32am]

bonbhan
Did anyone else see the Dove commercial last night during the Super Bowl? I'm impressed with their Campaign for Real Beauty. They have mother/daughter kits and tees for sale. I think I'll buy a tee.
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Sanaa Lathan tries ‘Something New’ [01 Feb 2006|04:42pm]

ashatay
[ mood | thoughtful ]

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NEW YORK - Let Go, Let Flow. That's the theme of the romantic comedy "Something New," starring Sanaa Lathan as an affluent black woman who falls in love with her white landscaper. And in many ways that's the theme of Lathan's personal love life as well. The 34-year-old beauty, who is currently single, spoke to The Associated Press about interracial dating on screen and in real life.

Read more...Collapse )

http://msnbc.msn.com/id/11130422/

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Advice For Women [23 Jan 2006|10:36am]

may_flower66
[ mood | good ]

1. Don't imagine you can change a man unless he's in diapers.
2. What do you do if your boyfriend walks out? You shut the door.
3. If they put a man on the moon they should be able to put them all up there.
4. Never let your man's mind wander it's too little to be out alone.
5. Go for younger men. You might as well, they never mature anyway.
6. Men are all the same they just have different faces, so that you can tell them apart.
7. Definition of a bachelor; a man who has missed the opportunity to make some woman miserable.
8. Women don't make fools of men most of them are the do it yourself types.
9. Best way to get a man to do something, is to suggest they are too old for it.
10. Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye opener.
11. If you want a committed man, look in a mental hospital.
12. If he asks what sort of books you're interested in, tell him checkbooks.
13. Remember a sense of humor does not mean that you tell him jokes, it means that you laugh at his.
14. Sadly, all men are created equal.

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Hi - I'm new [22 Jan 2006|12:18pm]

gemini_mom27
Hi I'm new to LJ. I was scanning through interests and came across your group. Your intro resonated with me..so here I am!
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What Men Think--Today show segment [13 Jan 2006|03:40pm]

ebonygoddess9
[ mood | cranky ]

Hello, Real Chicks!

Saw this on MSN.com, and I wanted to see what y'all think!

http://video.msn.com/v/us/v.htm?g=9bb7d4b4-1811-4652-8433-da241cef06fe,bea642a1-2606-4c7f-89e1-5ae859ad99ac,14ea4f6d-2371-4931-8e4d-f3484f94f956&t=c152&f=06/64&p=

Let's talk, 'cause this is good! :o)

EbG9 :o)

crossposted to my journal, and blackfolk

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Learning from Mistakes of the Past? [15 Dec 2005|12:14pm]

ebonygoddess9
[ mood | playing innocent ]

I read this post in a friend's journal, and I thought it might be a really interesting discussion for us to have, about mistakes we've made in the past, and how well we have (or in some cases, have not) learned from them. I know I'm still learning; however, I'd like to think I've come pretty far from 21. Yet and still there are those days where I have to wonder...

Posted here with permission from coachlover...heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeere we go!!!:

_________________________________________________

According to msroxy2 I'm attracted to arrogant ass men. That's probably why I listen to Steve Harvey so much. Besides P. Diddy and Donald Trump, I think Steve is in the top 5 of arrogant men on this earth. I'm so addicted to his morning show.

For those of you who don't listen to his show, he has a segment on there called the Strawberry Letter. He reads a letter from someone who's asking for advice. I must say, the one today was a doozy.

A 21 year old woman writes in that she's dating a 30 year old man, for 6 months and she's having problems with him. The problems are this:

1) He said he didn't have kids but she found out the next day when he was talking to his baby's mother

2) She found out by his mom that he has a new girlfriend. When asked about it, he says that it's just a friend that he sometimes sleeps with in her bed, but they don't have sex.

3) He was heard on the phone making a date with his baby's mom.

4) The sex isn't that good.

5) They don't go out on dates. The only thing he bought her was a $.25 pack of gum and she put in $.15 of that.

Now she was asking for advice to see if Steve had any insight on why she can't leave this man alone. She says despite the negatives, she's happy with him and can't let him go.

Now if you don't know Steve, I'm going to tell you. He's very country...and proud of it. He's ghetto....and proud of it. He also has a knack of telling the truth...but being brutal with it. He says "if you're grown enough to ask for advice, you are grown enough to hear how I'm going to say it".

His response basically in my own words was this:

You are only 21 years old. You have your life ahead of you. Why stay with a man that can't do nothing for you but sleep with you and actually he can't even do that if the sex isn't good? He is lying to you...and you know it. Why are you in denial? The pain will increase, the longer you stay with him. Change your number, don't take his calls, don't see him...just move on.

I heard what he was saying loud and clear but the only thing I kept thinking about was....that she's 21. How many of us were dumb and in love at 21? I know I was...and I've made some stupid mistakes that were definitely lessons.

I would hope that this young lady will keep all of her "mistakes" in her 20's and learn from them in her 30's.

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Newbie [13 Dec 2005|11:13am]

cherriboo
Hello all my name is Charity and I am a new member here. Let's see what I can say about myself. I am a college student in NC trying to graduate in May hopefully. I am a nursing major and love working with children although I have none of my own. Anything else you want to know just ask!!. :)
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How much are your dreams worth? [12 Dec 2005|05:55pm]

ebonygoddess9
[ mood | peaceful ]

"The bitter 30-year-olds are the ones who are still paying off the pizza they ate when they were 20."

I think this is a really interesting article, if you're willing to sit down and read it all. I'm 26, and I totally can relate to everything being said in it...I'm not going to accept that my debt will be here forever, but it's definitely here right now, and it would be nice if I didn't have to feel the effects of "success" so hard in my pocket--LOL!

Folk who can relate--let's chat!

EbG9 :o)

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Anyone here a nurse or know one? :-) [05 Dec 2005|02:33pm]

bellarisa
Heya,

My husband is seriously considering becoming an LPN and then an RN, ultimately becoming a pediatric nurse. If anyone has any insight on nursing as a profession please fill me in, thanks!!!

(also posted in Blackfolk)
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If you haven't, see Redemtion--it explains everything! [29 Nov 2005|07:53pm]

ebonygoddess9
[ mood | peaceful ]

Greetings Good People!

I've joined ColorOfChange.org in asking Gov. Schwarzenegger to grant clemency to Tookie Williams. I wanted to let you know about the effort and invite you to do the same. You never know--it might actually help!

http://colorofchange.org/williams.html

Y'all probably already know Tookie, but if you don't, here's his story: In the early '70s, Tookie Williams co-founded the Crips--a street gang that went on to cause tremendous destruction in Black neighborhoods throughout the country. In prison, Tookie's life took a 180-degree turn. First he repented and publicly apologized for the chaos that he helped create. Then he made it his life's work to clean up the mess and change the lives of others. Tookie has helped countless youth turn away from gang life; he's written numerous children's books; and he's won the praise of teachers, parole officers, and youth who've benefitted from his experiences.

Killing Tookie will solve nothing. In fact, we'll lose a key asset working to end the cycle of violence among our youth.

Please join me in urging Gov. Schwarzenegger to not kill Tookie Williams. It takes only a moment.

http://colorofchange.org/williams.html

Thanks!
EbG9 :o)

P.S. Yeah, it's a canned message I stole from the website, but that's BESIDE the point--just sign! :o)

cross-posted to blackfolk, angryblackchick, and my personal journal

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